Tuesday, July 5, 2011


Why is it that we are sometimes willing to accept so little, to take anything we can get, to settle?

What is it about us that makes us feel like we don't deserve to stand up and be counted?

Where did we learn that we are not worth the best, but rather should just settle for whatever we can get?

It can make a person feel so desperate, so alone.

It can also make a person feel taken for granted.  Always being the "good guy" and never complaining about being last on people's lists; yeah, it can make a person feel taken for granted.

But the question is, why do we allow it?

Why do we just take what is given to us and never say anything but thank you?  Because this feeling of unworthiness is so overpowering that it colours everything we do, that's why. 

So how do we stop this?  How do we counter this invasive feeling of unworthiness?  I read somewhere that the only way to fight it is with gratitude.  The more grateful a person is, the less unworthy they will feel.  And I guess it makes sense, but some days it's easier to feel grateful than others...



  1. mmmmm.....i'm not sure about the gratitude thing. i mean i TOTALLY love gratitude! think it's magic! but if we're not getting what we need in a situation we need to acknowledge it, ya know? my unworthiness stuff always goes way back to the child within....letting her know she counts and matters...

  2. I think that we can acknowledge that we don't always get what we think we want, need or deserve.....but I believe that, no matter what, we absolutely need to find some gratitude in the gift of living in each moment, whether it feels like a gift or not....in the end it always is.